I've spent the last two days decompressing for what was probably the craziest, happiest week of my life. Actually, I'm decompressing from the last few panic filled, stressful yet hopeful weeks of my life. But the last week was the best part.
I started my vacation from work on Thursday. Not to say that this meant it was time to kick back and do nothing. No. Thursday was pretty busy. We put the last few finishing touches on getting the house ready for house guests. We went to town hall to get our marriage license. I went to the airport to pick up my non-biological family from Texas. The countdown to getting married was officially on.
This blog post is probably going to be very light on details because everything is a giant blur by now. Sorry.
Anyway, the wedding was full steam ahead this time. The last attempt is best left in the past. Freddy, Jed and their boys were here and I feel kind of bad because they really got put to work for the first couple days they were here. Freddy was an enormous help. He helped take a lot of stress off of Ken's shoulders so that Ken could stress out over other things. I'm forever grateful for that.
Saturday was the big day. We invited a handful of friends to join us for lunch and to witness the ceremony. Everyone was to arrive at the house by noon. We arranged for transportation to get us to the restaurant where everything was to take place. So everyone got to meet and we had drinks before departing. Once we got to the restaurant, there were cocktails and hor's d'oeuvres. We were a little concerned that the photographer wasn't there yet, but we found out he was all set up upstairs where the ceremony was going to take place. The weather held out so we could do the ceremony on the restaurant's rooftop overlooking the city skyline. Our other option would have been the banquet room overlooking the same view.
I'm shocked I didn't bawl more than I did. I think it helped for me to just concentrate on Ken and Lori, our officiant. Lori both performed the ceremony, but also spoke on our behalf. It was really beautiful and touching what she said. Ken elected to have me read my vows to him first. My intention was to just stand up there and speak from my heart with nothing prepared. The night before, however, I was panic stricken when I realized there was a chance I could get up there and freeze. So I typed in what I wanted to say on my phone and used it as backup, which I needed to refer to once or twice. I didn't really get out what I had written. Some got left out, other stuff popped up. But one thing I included that absolutely made it was a song lyric. I heard this song a few weeks ago randomly on my iPod and the lyrics struck me as saying what I wanted to say. So at the end of my vows, I recited them. And it was pure me, because it was the chorus of "Never Gonna Give You Up" by Rick Astley. Ken yelled that he was being Rick Rolled at his own wedding!
Ken surprised the hell out of me by including lyrics in his vows as well. I played him a song 18 years ago when I realized I was falling head over heels for him called "Simply" by Sara Hickman. Not only did he still remember that, but he made me cry when he read the lyrics. And I could hear similar sounds from the witnesses.
After the ceremony we had more cocktails and hor's d'oeuvres before lunch was served. We created the menu together mixing in lunch type dishes with proper dinner dishes. I opted for the wedding staple of a turkey club and fries.
Oh, as for wardrobe, it was very non-traditional. We told everyone to go casual. I had on a green button up shirt with a Star Sapphire t-shirt underneath (can any comic book nerd tell me why I chose that one in particular?), khakis and my Batman Converse. Ken was in a button up shirt and slacks. We really wanted things to be casual. Because seriously, does anyone really enjoy getting all dressed up for a wedding?
I forgot to mention, we had official ring bearers. Adrian and Nathan, Freddy & Jed's two sons, were our ring bearers. We found t-shirts that said "Ring Security" on the back and "Official Ring Bearer" on the front. We housed our rings in little Batman and Superman lunch boxes. When the time came, the boys brought us our rings and then we exchanged them.
The whole shindig couldn't have been more perfect.
After the lunch, we threw a party at our house. We got to invite more people than we could have done for the actual wedding. Not everyone was able to make it, but we did have four states represented. And I'm told that I may have had a cocktail (or eighty-seven). I felt it the next day, but who cares. I had the time of my life.
It's hard for me to accept the love and friendship of my friends at face value sometimes. It's one of my hugest character flaws and I'm working on it. That day, however, it had never been easier. I'm truly blessed to have the people in my life that I do. They're there for a reason and I'm so grateful.